Everyone always says, “There isn’t a Parenting Handbook”, ultimately meaning that there are no wrong or right ways to do things. But man, I wish someone could just give me an instruction manual, crappy gas station directions, something!
Madd Minni came home with her report card today and she had a…not so good grade. Because she’s only in the second grade, she still receives number grades instead of letters. She had mostly 3s (really good) but two 1s (poor) in Math. I don’t fully understand it. She’s extremely smart. And I am not just saying that because she’s my child. I am merely relaying information I have received from teachers. Okay, and I am also a little biased….a lot biased. Regardless, seeing those grades and knowing her potential really aggravated me today.
Immediately following the initial disappointment, I began to explain how I was feeling and took away the birthday party I told her she could attend. I sentenced her to more math homework until she could get her grades up. Then off she went. Banished to her room.
Shortly after checking on her, I sent a text message to Madd Hunny and told him all about what happened. His response was simply, “she’s struggling, it’s not like she isn’t trying”. And of course, me being the hot headed, stubborn woman I am, had to retort with, “so then why didn’t she ask for help?!” Then, per usual, he helped me to calm down and see the bigger picture. To see things rationally.
From the moment I got pregnant, I was on my own more or less. I was a single teen mom trying to do everything I could for my daughter. The same daughter that watched me make it through struggle after struggle on my own. Madd Minni watched me as the independent woman I strive to be for her. Not the reckless teenager I was before she saved me from that lifestyle. Of course, like all other children, Madd Minni learns from what she sees. No wonder she didn’t ask me for help. She was trying to be independent. My stubborn, hardheaded little girl. Or rather, my independent mini me.
They say there are many ways to do this whole parenting thing, but I have no doubt in my mind I could definitely do with some improvements. So I will be tacking this on to my list of things to work on. Wish me luck!
Until next time, don’t forget: our children always see us for the heroes we truly are!